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According to Dailystar
, there are many reasons you might be blowing your load too early. And let’s face it, it’s no fun for anyone if it’s all over before you can count to ten.
A study of 500 British couples found that the average man lasts around 5.5 minutes.
However the new Journal of Sexual Medicine study, says women would like romps to last 23 minutes. This means the average guy is underachieving by 17.5 minutes.
But fear not, there are many ways you can become a stallion in the sack.
Whether you experience premature ejaculation – which is when men regularly finish within two minutes – erectile dysfunction, or you’re just a bit quick to the finish line, there are some easy ways you can become better in bed.
Here LloydsPharmacy’s Online Doctor, Dr Tom Brett, who has expertise in sexual health, reveals seven enlightening tips on lasting longer in bed.
S*x is more than simply penetration. Foreplay can greatly increase the sexual experience in terms of both time and pleasure.
2. Behavioural Techniques
Try the ‘squeeze technique’ (squeeze the penis tip near climax to prevent ejaculation), and the stop-start technique (reduce simulation when nearing climax).
Squeezing the penis when you feel like you about to ejaculate, will reduce your impulse to do so.
With time you should be able to recognise the impulse and be able to build control with squeezing.
How to do the squeeze:
Moments before you think you are going to ejaculate, yourself or your partner squeezes the head of your penis.
You can place your thumb either under or above the penis.
Maintain the squeeze for 10 to 20 seconds until you feel your impulse to ejaculate pass.
After you release the squeeze, wait for around 30 seconds, before returning to stimulation.
You may find that your penis becomes less erect during this period – this is normal.
For optimal results, this process is carried out several times before ejaculation is allowed to occur.
You can also practice the technique while masturbating.
3. Mental Distraction
An old classic. During sex focus on your attention on something deeply unerotic such as multiplication tables.
This can reduce the enjoyment of the act itself but is often effective in delaying ejaculation.
4. Slow Down
Generally, the faster the man has sex, the quicker he ejaculates. Rapid, hard thrusts result in a faster climax.
A slower, more measured technique means the penis tip is less stimulated and ejaculation delayed. It also allows for greater control over ejaculation.
Masturbation is perfectly healthy and natural and doing it regularly can help build up your stamina and thus enable you to last longer during s*x.
You can also practice behavioural techniques while masturbating so you are more comfortable using them during sex.
Condoms decrease sensitivity and therefore usually increase the time taken to ejaculate.
They also have the added bonus of preventing sexually transmitted disease and unwanted pregnancies.
Make sure you let your partner know what works for you and what doesn’t.
An open attitude towards sex should also relax you more and lessen the nerves that cause a swift ejaculation.
If you continue to experience problems there are treatments and counselling available.
Men who regularly experience premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction may find treatment is the best option.
Treatment for Premature Ejaculation
For some men, premature ejaculation is a recurring problem and treatment may be necessary.
One option is Priligy – a prescription tablet which delays the chemical reactions that cause ejaculation. Taken orally, it has been shown to be very effective.
EMLA, a cream applied to the penis to desensitise nerve endings which are part of the ejaculation process, is another option.
Although unlicensed as treatment for PE, EMLA is commonly prescribed and used with much success.
Treatment for Erectile Dysfunction
A number of prescription treatments are available for erectile dysfunction such as Viagra, as well as Cialis, Spedra, Levitra and Sildenafil.
Essentially they all help you gain and maintain an erection by increasing blood flow to your penis; helping you last longer in bed.
Premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction are often psychological. Counselling allows you to address the underlying issue.
The counselling can be combined with a medical regime that addresses the problem in the short-term. Once the counselling has resolved the issue, medical treatment can be ceased.